Yearly Review- your monthly wars

Its that time of the year when bosses review performances. You tell your people how much they have contributed towards the growth of the company. Ever so often pople have expectations of their raise and bonuses in their minds. Its rare people look at it as development tool, no matter how much its meant to be.

Every Month:

For a manager – every month is a battlefield, they (team members, bosses, SLAs) are your terrain, where we advance, retreat try to remove all the land mines.

You prepare your combat plan, month on month. It takes creativity, a skill that we all posses in ambundance. Sometimes people get it, some get blown away, some learn to make their own, and some just quit and many hover an cling on to civilian side- don't take any risks.
And just when you think you have won the battle and the world is a safe place again, along comes another landmine..

Some wars are never over.. some end in an uneasy truce; some wars result in complete and total victory; Some wars end with a peace offering and some wars end in hope. But all these wars are nothing compare to the most frightening one of all


- The one you have yet to fight.

Grief

My Grief at work/life related to Grey’s loss of OMally:
According to Elizabeth Coubler Ross when we are dying or have suffered a catastrophic loss we all move through 5 distinguish stages of grief:
We go into Denial – because the loss is so indictable we can’t imagine its true; we become angry with everyone, angry with survivors, angry with ourselves ; then we bargain, we beg ,we plead, we offer everything we have we offer our souls in exchange for just one more day. When the bargaining has failed and the anger is to hard to maintain we fall into depression- despair until finally we have to accept we have done everything we can we let go, we let go and move into acceptance.

It isn’t just death that we have to grieve its life, its loss, its change and when we wonder why its has to suck so much some times, has to hurt so bad ; the thing that we have to try remember that it can turn on a dime.

That’s how you stay alive! -When it hurts so much that you can’t breathe that’s how you survive.
And remembering that one day, somehow, impossibly, you won’t feel this way, it won’t hurt this much. Grief comes in its own time for everyone, in its own way. So the best we can do, best anyone can do is to try with honesty!

The really crappy thing the worst part of grief is that you can’t control it.

The best we can do is to try ourselves to el it when it comes and let go when we can.

The very worst part is when you think you are passed it, it starts all over again. And always every time it takes your breathe away.!

There are five stages of grief.. Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance.