My Grief at work/life related to Grey’s loss of OMally:
According to Elizabeth Coubler Ross when we are dying or have suffered a catastrophic loss we all move through 5 distinguish stages of grief:
We go into Denial – because the loss is so indictable we can’t imagine its true; we become angry with everyone, angry with survivors, angry with ourselves ; then we bargain, we beg ,we plead, we offer everything we have we offer our souls in exchange for just one more day. When the bargaining has failed and the anger is to hard to maintain we fall into depression- despair until finally we have to accept we have done everything we can we let go, we let go and move into acceptance.
It isn’t just death that we have to grieve its life, its loss, its change and when we wonder why its has to suck so much some times, has to hurt so bad ; the thing that we have to try remember that it can turn on a dime.
According to Elizabeth Coubler Ross when we are dying or have suffered a catastrophic loss we all move through 5 distinguish stages of grief:
We go into Denial – because the loss is so indictable we can’t imagine its true; we become angry with everyone, angry with survivors, angry with ourselves ; then we bargain, we beg ,we plead, we offer everything we have we offer our souls in exchange for just one more day. When the bargaining has failed and the anger is to hard to maintain we fall into depression- despair until finally we have to accept we have done everything we can we let go, we let go and move into acceptance.
It isn’t just death that we have to grieve its life, its loss, its change and when we wonder why its has to suck so much some times, has to hurt so bad ; the thing that we have to try remember that it can turn on a dime.
That’s how you stay alive! -When it hurts so much that you can’t breathe that’s how you survive.
And remembering that one day, somehow, impossibly, you won’t feel this way, it won’t hurt this much. Grief comes in its own time for everyone, in its own way. So the best we can do, best anyone can do is to try with honesty!
And remembering that one day, somehow, impossibly, you won’t feel this way, it won’t hurt this much. Grief comes in its own time for everyone, in its own way. So the best we can do, best anyone can do is to try with honesty!
The really crappy thing the worst part of grief is that you can’t control it.
The best we can do is to try ourselves to el it when it comes and let go when we can.
The very worst part is when you think you are passed it, it starts all over again. And always every time it takes your breathe away.!
There are five stages of grief.. Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance.
3 years back my friend Tim and I were discussing this Theory and we were amazed as we always have these wonderful insights about life....that grief or pain is actually is an initiation process.
ReplyDeleteAll pain moves upwards to a positive state till we are alleviated out of it and in a far better state than we started off
Hope I am not driving u crazy ...
Thoda sa hi-fi dee sab ud gaya :) I am going through various emotions wid Dave and work.. and mostly keep asking God "why me?"
ReplyDeletegrief seem to be analogous to a more readily accepted and, possibly, easier understood model of social development where the emphasis is on the importance of relationships -at any age and phase of human development- where bonds that are formed are recreated but not destroyed by someone's death.
ReplyDeleteI read it in freud's theory.
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